"Whom Am I?"
Crossroad Moments have the effect.
Feeling out of control or losing control
over your life or a situation.
Feeling like sitting on a spinning top and can't get off!
Thinking, this is not where I imagined I would be!!
You start asking:
What is happening?
What is happening to my life?
How did I get here?
Why Am I feeling this way?
A program designed for self-discovery! To help you navigate the crossroads moment in life.
Learn how our past creates the current and future situations that feel out of your control.
Explore and own your beliefs, fears and rules so you can heal, transform and shift them into ones that support your future and own your life direction.
Explore the stories you live by that create your life.
Help identify your feelings and why you can and can't do what you want to think, feel and do.
When you know your stories, you can re-write them, empowering you to choose your life and Create it on Your Terms!!
The process teaches, supports and guides you to identify your past hurts so you can move through them, empowering yourself and instilling unwavering confidence.
Move from confusion, fear, and uncertainty into clarity, confidence and conscious choice.
Crossroad Moments be like...
Situations and experiences that feel they are out of your control or hands. Life happens; we grow older; a decision was made that didn't quite turn out as planned.
You are sideswiped; even if you had an idea or an inkling something was not quite right, the sudden change or scare hits deep, to your core even. There are so many different options, possible paths to take, and big decisions that create lasting effects.
There are other people involved and any choice will affect their life, and adds to the confusion, guilt, fear, anxiety, and unsettledness of moving in any direction.
Situations appear as a threat, a loss, a fear, a challenge or even a deeper yearning for something different.
Something! Has to change, But!!
A health scare
Either you or someone close to you has a wake up call, a diagnosis or event that changes the way we see life and the way we live.
Change in a relationship.
A breakup, status change, growing at different rates. Changes in relationship dynamics or death hits deep and challenges many of our beliefs around self, love, relationships, love, commitments, emotional needs and activates core, deeply hidden rules and needs.
Change in work, status, or dynamics
Work and career are fundamental to our existence and identity, and success. It is the way we fund our lifestyle, choices and security. When our income, status or position is threatened or questioned, our identity, safety and responsibility are also threatened.
Change in life stage
Each stage of life has its own set of rules, expectations, and changes. We move from being looked after, to becoming independent, to being responsible for self then others. The reverse also occurs with time, where the family unit and dynamics change. Partnerships and friendships change. Some move on, away or pass over.
Our identity within the family changes moving from single to parenthood, to empty nesting, and then individual again.
Something is pulling you
Something deep inside you is stirring the pot. For some, it is like overnight a switch has been turned on. Suddenly there is an unsettledness, feelings and thoughts asking "Is this all there is". This experience often coincide with other Signiant events in life, and often seen as a midlife crisis. In truth, the sensation happens before and during all life transition stages.
These feelings can come as a surprise, or build up over time. Anxiety, uncertainty, feeling lost, confused, out of sorts, not quite right. Being easily triggered, or reactive for 'no real reason'.
This can lead to disassociation - checking out, avoidance, distraction and a wide range of addictive or sabotage strategies.
Are you ready to ask
"What's the story, that is holding me back?"
Are you ready to dive into your story and re-write it?
The story we tell ourselves and others explaining why we can and can't do things, enjoy experiences, and have free will is a well-engrained and often hidden monologue trapped in our nervous system and subconscious. For most, the story is based on self-preservation, protection and staying within the circle we grew up with.
Our family, friends, work colleagues, cultural groups, heritage, social norms and expectations. There are so many rules and expectations placed on people it is difficult to see them - the tree in the forest phenomenon, let alone be aware of what one thinks, feels, and honestly believes. Society doesn't encourage individuality - tall poppies syndrome, and we are expected to conform, agree to and follow the rules, no matter what.
Yet, we are individuals, living within communities, families and partnerships. Together, yet separate.
For many, we reach a stage in life where we start to feel or observe something is happening. The way we are living, feeling, and experiencing life isn't what we thought it would be like when we were children. There are gaps in reality compared to our dreams, hopes, and life purpose. The more we consider this, the more our deeper truths (as we see them) start to surface. The hidden beliefs, stories, justifications, expectations etc., want to be seen and heard and finally come out of the shadows, from their banishment and into the light to be free.
Feeling insecure, uncertain, lost, trapped by your emotions and adrift even comes from the questions of:
This is a time for celebration!! As the hidden, and banished parts are gently reunited with the rest of us, we experience ourselves as being whole and increase our self-love, and compassion, which can only overflow into our life. Liberation of our 'selfs', results in liberating ourselves to live a life by choice, more abundantly and in turn, more authentically. We come home to all of 'us'.
You can authentically declare, "I create My life on My TERMS!"
It is possible because you uncover your story, and you get to choose:
* how to see, feel and interact with yourself and others.
* what you say yes and no to.
* what you will tolerate, encourage, enable and plant seeds to grow.
* where you invest your time, energy and resources.
* become empowered to co-create more of what you dream and move away from what you don't.
You get to choose!!
But to get to this point of freedom, the inner world - our stories, rules, constructs, beliefs, expectations etc., need to be released from their hiding places.
What your life could look, feel and be like if you give yourself permission to live from your authentic self. The part of you that sings from love and joy. Explore your inner world to unlock your super power strengths that have been shunned.
The inner pull to live a life on purpose to creates more happiness, fulfilment and connection, is real.
You want to be real, and true to yourself, but maybe you don't know who that is.
There are many questions raised, that want answers.
Thoughts that come to mind, that want to be heard and discussed.
Who am I, and what do I want to be doing?
Is this it?
Why do I feel this way?
What do I even do what I do?
Why does this or that keep happening?
I am doing all the right things, yet nothing seems to change, why?
Why Am I scared, procrastinating, or sabotaging my progress?
Why is decision-making so hard?
Am I going to be doing this for the rest of my life?
Is change possible?
What should I be doing with my life?
Is it possible for me to do xyz?
These are just a few of the questions asked and the good news is when the conscious-thinking mind asks questions, the subconscious is obliged to give you answers. The downside is that the answers are biased and misleading.
See, the answers you get back via your thoughts and feelings are from your past experiences and stories.
You created this for a good reason - to keep you feeling and being safe. They are all coping and adaptation strategies. However, many of the early life strategies are ineffective or downright dangerous in the adult world. Yep! Safety and Acceptance are two of the most powerful needs that drive us to do what we do, feel what we feel and create stories to justify even the worst of behaviours.
Yet, starting the self-awareness journey is often confounding and scary. The fear of the unknown, even if we really want to feel more content, can be too much of a gap. Yes, there is a different way...
The Whom Am I program and the other ReclaimME! programs are designed to support, teach, encourage and create a safe space for you to explore yourself. Your stories, lies, beliefs, strategies you developed all those years ago, that now want to 'grow up'. It is possible, with more self-awareness to make very different choices. To create a life of meaning and purpose, on your terms. You get to choose, and that makes you a winner.
"Is it possible for me, considering how f up I am?" YES!
YES! But, I will also suggest you are quite normal, considering your past experiences, training and what You have had to cope with. What often happens when you learn how your thoughts, feelings and ideas are created; your past and current feelings make a lot more sense. You begin the healing process and develop empathy for yourself. This, is powerful!!
We see and hear so many rags-to-riches stories. People who turn their life around, living a life they love, are surrounded by people they adore etc. These may not be in your immediate circle, so read about them, and watch empowering documentaries or movies based on real life. Look for the evidence and be open to considering this could be you too.
"I am worth investing the time, energy and money?"
Only you can say, but from experience, yes.
We are all worthy; we only need to declare it for ourselves. It took me years to finally surrender to saying yes, to investing in me, for me. To change my life around, and from this experience, the more I dived into my stuff, the easier it was to say yes to me!!
IS there a logical reason why I feel these things
Again, yes! The Whom AM I program explores the impact childhood, trauma and life experiences have in shaping our beliefs, life rules, norms, expectations and the framework of how we 'should' interact with the world. But, this is the thing... These concepts are learnt, from others who learnt them from their parents, schooling, friends etc., and more so their messages of their time. Coming to terms with this concept is quite liberating.
WE never really stop creating or refining the coping stories. So, as adults, when confronted with issues, we still tend to justify what and why it is happening. This is part of the healing opportunity. BEcoming aware of our thoughts, feelings, and the story is where the gold is.
As the phrase says, "We all do what we can with the resources we have at the time." As we learn more, then, we have the choice to change and evolve. You are doing the best you can with what you currently know and have skills, ability and support. Nothing changes until we do, and that is the sucky truth!!
How long will it take to feel better?
I'm going to be honest here ..... how long is a piece of string? A cop-out answer, but true. Imagine an onion or anything layered. The core issues are buried under years of programming. More intense the experiences, the deeper the core. The subconscious has a built-in protective mechanism - it will only expose what the mind and body can cope with. The caution here is to work with experienced practitioners, preferably with first-hand knowledge of trauma and the challenges. Why? Because we have lived through the process of being in powerfully challenging experiences, but also have learnt a lot about healing the wounds created. No one has lived your life or has your beliefs and stories to work with, but we have our similarities become the empathetic bridge.
Program -Whom Am I?
Take the first steps of your empowerment journey.
Learn about your thoughts, feelings, needs and what is holding you back.
Self-awareness is the gateway to empowered choice enabling you to
Create Your Life on Your Terms!
Education, Support and Self-empowerment
4 modules over 4 weeks
Each module includes:
Exploration and Self-Development Work Sheet
Join the Whom Am I Program
By completing the Whom Am I? program, you will have a lot more information about yourself. In a nutshell, what and how your past is dictating your present and future self. Your beliefs, stories you live by and the rules that say what is 'right' for you or not.
Information is power.
Exploring your past, with adult eyes increases your self-awareness. Learning new ideas, and skills create space to make different choices.
When you acknowledge the beliefs, and stories playing out in your life, you have the opportunity to keep, change, or drop them out of your mind and body.
Knowledge is freeing, and when applied becomes wisdom.
Whom AM I? Is designed to empower you!
Educate, inform and support so you choose.
You decide how to live your life.
You create options on your terms!